Show-Off Culture

Show-Off Culture and Individual's Intentions 

Is this world really adopting show off culture or they are happy with sharing every single thing even private thing to everyone?

Is showing everything to everyone is appropriate?

Does it really make you happy or more conscious about what other might thing about you?

These are the types of questions you might usually ask yourself, others or have listened in some lazy gossips. And you might have not found the right answer.

The phrase "That person is such a show-off" you must had have heard in your life or even said it yourself about others. But internationally or unintentionally we are also doing the same in some way. Likewise, Snobbery is also becoming a part of our lives. We just say things for acknowledgment that we are aware of it but intentionally or unintentionally we are part of it. We brag about a lot of things and always weaving around just to show off that you are involved in breaking stereotypes but in actual you are somehow also part of it. For example, we always brag about being respectful towards your parents an elder, people usually put a lot of pictures of their parents on parent’s day and bragging about how respectful you shouldn’t be towards them but in actual you are not doing the same what you say. Likewise, people are bragging about child labor on internet, and might they have a 10-year boy or girl coming with their parents to work at your home.

In the same context of show-off, we are doing things which we might not be comfortable with, but we do it to have influence on others perception about you. For example, people buying expensive phone e.g., iPhone. Yes! It's true that buying it might make them happy but unconsciously they think about making other happy of him, acknowledging him etc. Unintentionally but, People like being acknowledged or appraised and they also appraise or Respect those who are strong in position. And this phenomenon leads to people being unsatisfied about themselves all the time. People start caring about other's opinion, perceptions, and appreciation more than their happiness and limits.

Is social media playing a role in normalizing show off?

We can obviously notice that with passage of time and growing technological era, this culture is becoming a casual thing. But we cannot deny that this never existed people still used to show off at that time when there was no social media or technology, but they would do it by presenting and bragging their things in front of those who would get either jealous or inspired. But it is also true that at that time this was not that much easy or normal. Now, every single person is doing this and not even thinking about that what they are doing. It is becoming a norm to put pictures on your social media accounts about everything you had, where you go, where you are, what you are wearing, what you are feeling not thinking about how some people who are jealous of you are becoming more annoyed by you and the people who are deprived from that luxury are getting into more complex. 

Even some people do charity to show off that they are kind, and this happens mostly in

politics. This can give you a temporary satisfaction that everyone is praising of what you have but for long run you are destroying your and maybe others mental health. You will always be in a hurry that you have to show this to others as well and worrying about this all the time can become a stress and more importantly you miss a beautiful time or feeling right at moment while sharing with others who don't even care or even jealous of what you have. In other sense you might be doing things you don't actually want to do just to show off. For instance, buying expensive phone that you couldn't afford but you took a loan etc. just to show others about your worth. Likewise, people specially youth get into smoking, drinking alcohol and even drugs just to show off that they are fulfilling the term of being cool. Which is not destroying their physical but mental health. If we see the other side, people who can't afford those things are also being exploited as they are somehow being forced to see what they have and they start being ungrateful of what they have, they are always unsatisfied and in stress.

Has show-off culture only one and bad side?

No, we cannot conclude this as some people are using it for sake of awareness. Some people show their success and success stories so that others can also get inspired and work too. Likewise, some people do show their charity to spread awareness about that class of society who needs this and to motivate others to do the same. Some people might not like sharing about these things to others which is also good but sharing it with the intention of awareness and motivate is best.

Everything has a positive and a negative side. So, it all depends on your intentions of showing off, what you are sharing and how you are sharing.  But there are some limits and privacy that shouldn't be a show-off as it takes away the real beauty of life while you were capturing it to please others.

After reading this kindly visit

"Reading"-It's impact on our mental health!!

 Reading and its effect on mental health

Reading in my opinion is the most mysterious activity I’ve ever encountered.  While reading a thriller book we find ourselves imaging the whole scenes and also when reading fantasy novels, we can imagine things that don’t make any sense practically than how does our brain imagines those scenarios? How do we can see things in our mind that are not seen before? How can we humans imagine differently while reading the same book? The book can be a fantasy, love story, action story or even alien story we’ll still be able to imagine the scenes, characters and the voices too.

When I read books, I can hear the characters talking while reading their dialogues and even if I’m reading a life lesson book, I can still hear their voices. I imagine the characters, voices and the surroundings too. Once I was reading a book where the characters were visiting Turkey, and I who never went out of the city where I was born, can literally visualize Turkey, sitting in my sofa, eating snacks and having a warm cup of coffee. If the character is enjoying a view, a song or anything I enjoy with them too. Just like how we sometimes connect the vibes of a song and create the whole ambiance from it. This depends on how a writer executes their art too but have you ever thought of how despite being so normal we can visualize such extra ordinary things.

Reading is just an art which takes a visit of our brain and makes every part of our brain active. When we read something, our brain is fully active and focuses on the smallest details of the content we read. Our brain is active and focused during reading that it improves our brain power. Just like how after exercising our body becomes stronger, reading makes our brain stronger.

Reading takes you to another world

When we are reading our mind can only think of what we are reading. It takes all the focus from everything and diverts into reading. When I feel stressful or upset, I tend to read some good book that I’ve read 100 times before but I’ll still read again and my stress, mood swings and sadness just disappears and I find myself focused into that book or story. I find myself imagining the characters and even different imaginary worlds. That’s how impactful reading is. It takes to a whole new world tour by just sitting in your room.

Reading acts as therapeutic

Reading is an art that also is therapeutic for us. Having to focus on small details of writing is very healthy for our brain. We can emotionally feel what a book character says or feels. It also stimulates our emotions and we feel emotionally attached to the characters or books. Reading is a great catharsis for our emotions. For example, while reading Harry Potter, I was sobbing on the death of Professor Dumbledore it was the greatest shock for me and so upsetting that I was reading the scene at 3 am and I had to hide myself in my pillows so that my family can’t hear me crying just for a book character. For them it was just a character but for me he was PROFESOR DUMBLEDORE!!! How can I not cry for him who was with me for 6 books but now my favorite character was betrayed by his own ally (Well that’s how it seemed at that time).

Reading cures disorders too!!

It has been proved through scientific researches that reading proves beneficial for mental health issues and it improved people's mental health.  Active brain can avoid many diseases and specially at old age. An inactivity in brain increases the chances of people getting affected by diseases such as Alzheimer’s or Dementia, so reading helps in keeping your mind active. In this era, where mental health issues are rising rapidly and we can’t even find the time to go for therapy, such simple activity of reading can help you a great deal. So get out of that procrastination mode and jump to good book your friend has been telling you to read since forever and its never too late to adopt a healthy hobby. Have good read!!

Obsession vs Addiction-How does it impact your mental health?

 

Obsession vs Addiction-How does it impact your mental health?

Obsession and addiction are two terms which are mostly confused with each other. If you ask someone what is the difference between two, they will always mix up these two terms. And majority of the people think that these two have similar meanings but in reality, they are two really different things. Let’s get into the meaning of these two terms.

Obsession is basically when your mind gets filled up by something or someone. You tend to think around that object or person. You can’t seem to help but have thoughts about those certain things. Now it may seem like these thoughts are troubling someone’s mind but if we look deeper in it, people start living their life around these obsessions they have. And they may be tiring for them but it can’t be helped.

In comparison, if we talk about addiction, addiction is some kind of escape our minds takes. A person tries different ways to go far away from the reality and becomes addicted to it. Because that person finds comfort in this escape. Not having to face the cruel reality can be a huge comfort but also too harmful for us because nonetheless we will have to face the reality in the end and that addiction will not let us face it. These addictions make a person weak because it makes us rely on something that is basically very bad for us.

Let’s assume that a person is not able to take his/her mind off from washing hands again and again. Even after washing hands for nth time, they still feel unhygienic and are not satisfied. This is the examples of obsession. Where as addiction is a situation where a person depends on something such as alcohol, drugs or even those things that may not seem harmful at first but can cause damage if excessively used.

Obsession is basically fear of something, a person is always concerned about certain things like blindly following superstitions, always thinking of ways to hide themselves or else they will do something shameful or will get insulted by doing something awkward. They constantly overthink over many aspects that seem like normal to everyone else. For example, normally people won’t be affected that much by seeing things out of order but someone who is obsessed with having everything organized in order will not be able to tolerate it for even a second because they are obsessed with having everything organized and in order.

Addiction can be also for many different things. People can get addicted to anything that helps them escape the reality or is some kind of external support to their minds. For example, many students get addicted to coffee or caffeine during exams season because it keeps their mind awake and they can focus more on their studies. Now this routine becomes so strong that even after getting what they want for that specific time, they can’t let go of that habit they developed during this time. This becomes so much difficult later on as your mind starts depending on that specific thins and you start using it excessively which can have a huge impact on their health.

These two terms are so confused with each other that we don’t even try to look for the facts and its impact on our mental health. They both are bad for us but they are treated differently. If we always confuse them, we will never be able to treat them correctly until and unless we get professional help. So, we should have at least this much awareness for such terms that we will not be affected badly with them. We should always try to educate ourselves for such minimal topics to avoid getting in their dangerous aspects. This type of awareness is very important for us, specially in this digital era where we have more exposure to everything, we also have accessibility to any kind of information. So, make sure to have some time to educate yourself for your own good.