Growing up-How it effects our mental health...???

 

How does the growing up effect our mental health?

Now a days there are many mental health issue that are develop in growing up stages of the children. These mental health issue are neurodevelopment issue, depression, anxiety, stress disorder etc.

At the age 5 to 10 years we think we can to very thing as we are not aware of our surrounding and we set our goal very high when we reach at the age of our teen and we are not able to get any oppurtunities to achieves our goal and sometime the financial condition are not enough to achieve our goal and get the higher education and achieve our goal that thing leave a very deep impact on our mental health because we are not able get what we dream at our early stage of growing up it can also lead to the depression and other mental health issue.

The teenage is very important in growing up stages in this period the emotion of the person is very high and the hormones is very active the chances of getting mental illness in teenage is very high and also they experience very emotional turmoil and to reduce their depression and the anxiety they also can develop the habit o the smoking and the worst case they start getting indulge in the drugs and try to attempt the suicide.

Technology and its effect on the growing age

In recent years the technology is expanding and its effect the every area of our life. Technology change the way of our communication and because of this the world is became a global village but it have many negative impact on the growing stage. The increased in the usage of the screen and the social media in the children and in teens increased the risk of the depression and anxiety as the development of the children is depend on the different factor but they tend to use only the technology at their growing stage which leads to the depression, low-self-esteem and the working in the group form and they are not able to focus on their daily routine.as the increase in the time with the technology that decrease the time that we spent on our physical activities that can help us to release our stress and decrease the risk of developing the mental illness issues.

Spoiling children at their growing age and their effect on the mental health

Those parents who spoil their children too much at their growing stage are harmful for children

and as well as the society. They think themselves very superior and they do not acknowledge other in front of themselves and they are often indulge in bullying other in the school that develop the mental illness in those students and they take everything for granted.

Those children who are spoiled too much at their growing stage they depend on others too much which can cause them troubles in the future from which they are not aware and when they start to realize their responsibility and are not able to fulfil them than they are likely to develop the mental issue that is depression ,anxiety etc. They source of happiness is other not themselves because they depend on other too much.

The spoiled child are unable to fulfil their responsibility and unable to understand their limits when to stop they most likely to develop the habit of drinking gambling and other bad habits. They are unmotivated and unhappy with their lives and develops a mental health issues in those children who are spoiled at their growing up stage.

They are very disrespectful to the other and they make fun of everyone which is not good because it will affect the mental health of the other because those children are not considerate to the other because sometime they say many means things to the person it will leave the very deep impact on the person and can cause the development of the mental health issue.

Self Love and Spread Love

How to love yourself even not fitting to Artificial Beauty Standards

Beauty standards and their Reality

Many people suffer from anxiety and depression on the things they can't control. And there are somethings they can control but they don't know that they can. In today's world everything is possible, and people think that with money they can do anything just like when people don't like something in their physical appearance, they think that they can change it if they have money. And this is the cause of rising beauty standards day by day and the fun fact is those standards are not even natural or attractive. What makes a person attractive is their character. But in today's world people get attracted to others for their appearance but it's a fact that this attraction has always been proved temporary because for longer run people with you will know your reality who you really are and what your character is.

In the past few years since pandemic people are having more anxiety than usual. Yes! Corona fear was one of the main reasons but low self esteem, self hate, and fear to show up was also a main reason. As many of us got weight or skin issues due to sitting all day and unhealthy eating patterns. And that is absolutely not right because things which are unhealthy for you, can never be justified to intake. But many people became more conscious about themselves and people who have no control over it for example people with certain disease who can't lose, or gain weight become more frustrated, and they lose their confidence. My point here is that if you have control over loosing or gaining weight you should do it for your health but if not then torturing yourself, hating yourself and loosing your confidence just because of these artificial beauty standards is injustice.

Weight is just one variable in these standards. Others are Perfect eyes, cheeks, lips, hair, hands, teeth, skin, and the list go on and it doesn't end. People are physically torturing and tolerating severe pain just to fulfill these standards of being perfect and irony is that when you fulfill it they would say you were better before🤐. Even if they don't say it but what's the point of going through this much pain, emotionally, physically, and financially too as these perfection costs some monetary value too and bring people to footpath😅.

And when people can't afford it, they are always thinking how to get it done as soon as possible, from where can I get this much money. They start assuming that life is going to be perfect when I'll get this done with my appearance. They think that their appearance is the reason of their low confidence and due to this thinking, they lose even more confidence.

But the truth is

NO! NO! NO!

Life is never going to be perfect even if you do it, you are never going to be happy even if you look perfect. Appearance has no connection with your happiness that lies only within you. If you are not happy with what you have then you'll never going to be happy with what you are wishing for. The only thing you need to understand is that the person who wants to be attracted to you by your appearance not your character then is that person worth your attention?

First you need to accept yourself the way you are.

When you'll accept that it is what it is, and you can not control it even if you have money then you won't be thinking about the solutions all the time to get rid of what you have and get what you don't have. You'll accept that life will be keep going with this and it doesn't matter at all. When you'll accept it, you will stop thinking about others opinion too, you will have more time to work on other things, you'll grow mentally, you'll achieve more things which are worth importance. For example, any goal you have about your career. When you will be accepting that you are just the way you are then you won't waste your time in thinking about it.

Secondly you need to surround yourself with positive people.

Surrounding yourself with people who are positive and optimistic, who appreciate you for your achievements and the character you have, who will help you grow emotionally, mentally and in life as your career as well. Just observe these types of people who are worth your importance and time. Filter them out and avoid those people who are always keep you conscious about your looks and weaknesses. Well, that's not very easy nor very difficult to avoid such type of people because sometimes they are in your family, your colleagues with whom you have to work with so, you simply can never cut them out of your life. But the things you have to do is ignore them, never become too personal in your conversations with them so that they can say something about you and give them a nice shut up call in your own professional way, so they won't utter such things next time.

Third and most important step is to love your self.

After accepting what you are you can even start loving yourself. Just appraise what you have. Ignore the weaknesses. Yes! Obviously work on them but don't let your weaknesses overcome your strengths. Even when nobody is appreciating, appreciate yourself. Don't expect someone to come and tell you that you are beautiful. Not expecting from someone and enjoying your own company is one of the greatest blessings that leads to a healthier life. Just tell yourself that you are beautiful because you are just the way you were meant to be. Treat yourself as the most important person in your life, whose appreciation and opinion are the most important. Give royalty to yourself. Give treats to yourself. Eat healthy for yourself, wear good for your self. Just do what makes YOU happy. Start loving your achievements and the good things you do. Focus on good things and you'll not have time to focus on things you can't control.

And lastly spread love.

Some people just love themselves and give importance to themselves so much that they forget about what other people need. You should give importance to yourself but not only to yourself. You should be your priority but not only you. You must take care of the needs of people close to you. When people love themselves, they become a happier version of themselves but those are the people who bring happiness in this world. You must share your happiness with others too in need, you must lead others too to become optimistic. Maybe it can be your love or words that were needed for them to change their life. So, keeping yourself a priority, spread love whenever you get a chance.

Life is too short to think and waste time on achieving perfection in your appearance that is going to give you nothing but some artificial people who are attracted to your outer beauty who are not worth it and not going to help you grow mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. You must give time to yourself to work on your inner beauty and mental health. Then people who are worth your importance and who want to see you grow and be happy, will be attracted to you.

You are the main source of your happiness so, create your happiness and also become a reason for a smile on others face too as when you are happy, you give a beautiful vibe to others that forces them to get attracted to you.